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Why is Male Chastity Appealing?

This is an article on chastity from a blog I used to follow a long time ago. Unfortunately this blog is no longer available, but I found a back up in my hard drive... Enjoy:

What are the Advantages for Women?

So what is it about male chastity that could possibly appeal to a woman? We have discovered that there are actually several things about this activity that are potentially very attractive to them. Probably the single most important one is that the husband’s sole focus is suddenly and dramatically refocused on their wives. Men who are in male chastity become “locked” (pun intended) in on their wives like never before. They dote on her and try to please her in ways they may not have before. But why is that? The truth is many men are chronic masturbators. As a guy, I know what happens when I have an orgasm. It’s like a sigh of relief. I feel content, and there is less focus on my wife because a sexual need has been met. It doesn’t mean I don’t love my wife, because I do. The reality is I guess you could say there is less a sense of urgency to meet her needs. But, if a guy is in chastity he tends to focus in on his wife like a laser beam, and this renewed focus can serve as an aphrodisiac for a woman.

Secondly, it can also potentially improve her sex life. Why, because when she takes away a guy’s masturbation outlet, his sole sexual outlet becomes his wife. She always gets his best effort and she gets it whenever she wants it and needs it. She no longer has to worry about him being “too tired” or wanting to watch the ball game. Instead, he now has a renewed drive and sexual frenzy. She also doesn’t have to worry about him stroking off fantasizing about his hot secretary or the busty blonde next door. She gets his complete sexual attention, and women LOVE being the sole object of their husband’s sexual interest.

A third reason why this may appeal to a woman is that they feel empowered and more in control of the relationship. The power and control she has cannot be underestimated as many women really enjoy being the “Goddess” or “Keyholder.”

What are the Advantages for Men?
So obviously there are some pretty compelling reasons why a woman might be interested in male chastity, but why would a guy want to be placed in chastity?

Believe it or not, there are also several reasons why guys might want this. In the SPT Survey we referenced recently, we asked guys to rate several different areas of possible sexual interest. Surprisingly, over 84% of the guys who have responded to our survey thus far have indicated at least some interest in orgasm denial if even for a short period of time. That was an astonishingly high number to us, and it begs the question, are smaller endowed guys more likely to be drawn to male chastity than guys of average or above average penis size? In researching the subject, I found no empirical evidence either way, so I guess it’s impossible to make that inference, but from our own “small” sample size it was definitely eye-opening. Some guys may not even know why they want it; they just know the idea of being denied an orgasm and/or having their wives control their orgasms, if even only on a short term basis, really does turn them on.

One of the reasons, perhaps strangely, goes back again to masturbation. Guys do it a lot; sometimes we even feel guilty afterwards. Have any of you guys ever stroked off but your wife didn’t know about it, and then you felt bad or guilty for doing so afterwards? By turning over control of this aspect of a guy’s sexuality, it may help eliminate that inner conflict. This conflict could come for a variety of reasons: (a) Perhaps you’re stoking off while fantasizing about a woman other than your wife, (b) Knowing that if your wife wants sex later that night she will probably not get your best effort, or (c) Recognizing that your own masturbation habits are simply out of control. Thus male chastity can help keep a guy more sexually focused on his wife.

In addition, some guys, who really think through this concept, may have already recognized that they are not as focused on their wives outside the bedroom like they should be either. They know it, they feel it, but they are just unsure what to do about it. So, they come to the conclusion that male chastity will provide them the extra “motivation” or incentive they need to really focus more attention on their wives than they have been.

Lastly, another undeniable attraction for some guys, especially submissive males in a Dom-sub relationship is that surrendering their orgasms to their Dominant female is the ultimate expression of their submission, and as such, is highly arousing for them. Likewise, the Dom in such as relationship is also quite turned on by this dynamic as well. Yes, a guy can obviously be denied orgasm without going into male chastity, but by doing so, it really does give your Dom more power and control in the relationship. While I have seen no studies that suggest male chastity is more likely to occur in a Dom-sub relationship, it seems feasible that there is at least some possible correlation.

Male Chastity: Role Play or a Real Lifestyle Change?
Male chastity is something you can engage in on a part-time, fantasy role play basis that changes things up. Much like SPT or any other sexual practice, it can simply be a fun way of creating a little more sexual tension and excitement in your relationship, and many couples play with it simply as an occasional role play activity.

But for others, they view it as a new “lifestyle” relationship change and enjoy it together. Couples in this category see it not as optional, but as a very important and necessary part of their relationship. They embrace the advantages listed above and like the ongoing sexual tension and mystery in the relationship.

The bottom line is, if it works for the two of you, whether it’s a role play activity or a lifestyle change, and is fun for both, then there are obvious benefits for the two of you. The important thing to remember is it is still important, necessary and natural for a guy to orgasm, so it’s best to keep that in mind whether you view this as either a part-time role play activity or a lifestyle change.

So, have our views on male chastity changed? Yes, primarily because we now have a better understanding of it, and can actually understand why it might appeal to some couples. As I mentioned above, the thing we both try to keep in mind is just like any sexual fetish or practice, there are basic versions of it and also more extreme. What we presented above are the more obvious reasons why some couples might consider it. But, if you do an Internet search of male chastity, you will no doubt find references to BDSM, domestic discipline, deeper humiliation, CBT and other more extreme “add-on’s.” Maybe you see some value in male chastity as described above, maybe you like the more extreme versions of it, or, perhaps you see no value in it at all. The real beauty of a good sexual relationship with your partner is (especially if you have excellent communication), it allows you to explore a wide range of activities and then decide between the two of you, what works, and what doesn’t.

Now, I would like to ask you our readers what you think about it? If you don’t have any interest in it, feel free to say so. But, if you are currently engaged in it or would like to be, we would be very interested in seeing your responses to the questions below.

For Both Men & Women:
(1) Do you engage in male chastity?

(2) If you do, is it as a part-time role play activity, or as a lifestyle change?

(3) If you do engage in it, what do you perceive to be the most important benefit(s) for you and your partner?

(4) If you don’t currently engage in it, would you like too?

(5) Do you believe there is a correlation between the desire for male chastity and penis size, or do you think there is no correlation at all?

As always, thank you in advance for your thoughtful comments!

The chastity cage is an extension of my will

And my will says to keep you locked..... FOREVER! And you are so happy with that because it makes me happy... And unlike me.. You have no will!

You will forget how pussy feels like...

Your chastity belt will be uncomfortable during the first few months... You will soon forget about it... Just like you will forget how pussy feels like!

Chastity: The Most Effective Punishment

There are many ways to discipline or punish a misbehaving slave. These can range from spankings to whippings to collars to leashes - all of which can be very effective depending on the severity of the punishing and the type of slave. There is however one type of punishment that reigns supreme as the most effective above all else for male slaves - chastity.

 Chastity is so effective because it takes away the one thing that a male will value most - his right to release and put him in a state of total frustration and at the very beck and call of his master or mistress. Chastity punishments can take form in many ways, a misbehaving slave may be put into chastity for a few days, a few weeks, a few months or indefinitely. Alternatively you can simply place a slave in chastity all the time and only release him as a reward for being a good slave. Then again you can just never release him at all!

Remember: The Key to a Cuckold Relationship is Chastity

Any cuckold relationship in which the male is not allowed any sexual contact or satisfaction whilst the female is allowed to sleep with whoever she likes as often as she wants, wherever she wants can be made even better through the use of the chastity belt.

By putting the male in a chastity device this ensures that no matter how much he wants it he simply cannot get any sexual satisfaction unless of course the female decides that she wants him too (which in most cases is not very likely!). This allows her to not have to monitor the male so much and worry about him getting undesired pleasure and focus on more important things - such as having sex with other men!

There are plenty of chastity belts available for sale online - a particularly good one is the CB-6000 male chastity belt which is designed especially for long term enforced male chastity.

The Benefits of Enforced Chastity
Chastity can spice up a BDSM relationship in many ways and it is only through enforced chastity that a male can be truley put in their most submissive state possible. By denying a male his right to orgasm you are taking away the biggest luxury he has and he will automatically be at the total mercy of the master of mistress who holds the key to this priveledge. The best way to enforce such chastity is through the use of chastity devices.

There are many great chastity belts on the market today that do a fantastic job at securely locking away males kept in chastity. Some of the best chastity belts include the CB-3000 - a slick and lightweight device that allows for long term wear, The Curve - another great device designed for those with slightly larger packages and the CB-6000 - the latest and greatest in the line of the CB chastity belts, practically the king of all belts.

Keeping a male in chastity is great as it serves as a constant reminder of who is in charge, builds up constant frustration and can be used in excellent and evil ways to make the slave or submissive male to behave exactly as the master or mistress wishes.

Why Men Should be Locked Away
It's a well known fact in the world of BDSM is that the best way to get a man into the ultimate state of submission is to take away the one thing that means the most to him, the one thing that controls his dirty mind more then anything else - his right to orgasm. By doing so he is at the complete mercy of the the keyholder and after just a little bit of teasing and denying his right to freedom he will be just about willing to do anything for the person holding his key.

A man locked away will not argue when asks to complete chore after chore after chore, nor will he whing when made to complete painful or degrading tasks. He will simply accept facts, complete them and hope that he will eventually be given release.

One of the most fun aspects of chastity for a master or mistress is the ability to constantly torment the male slave that is locked away by promising freedom and release eventually but constantly denying him time after time after time, putting him into a state of deeper and deeper submission. Chastity belts are without a doubt the best way to add a whole new dimension to any BDSM relationship and there are plenty of extremely high quality and affordable devices on the market today.